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Ripples of Hope

by Kimberly Parker

In January, I carpooled with six other people to an overnight retreat. We had only met each other one other time before the trip, so we were all a bit apprehensive about why we were being asked to go on this retreat together and what it would entail. Everyone was wondering why we were being thrown into the wilderness together and left to survive, or at least that’s what it felt like to us!

We had each been invited to participate in Ripples of Hope, a non-profit organization that accelerates the healthy, meaningful growth of organizations that believe business should be a force of good. The non-profit organization was created by Jeff Hilimire, Central OAC Board Chair. Jeff and another leader in Ripples of Hope, Rachelle Kuramoto, met us at the house where we would be staying. They had lunch with us, went over the agenda, and then they left us. I think we were all still a bit hesitant about what was going to happen over the next several hours. But, we got started. We hiked and got lost. We began sharing our stories of what led us to do what we do. We cooked dinner together. We played games. We laughed and some of us cried as we spent time together. 

It was a pretty intense 12+ hours, but it was amazing! From that time at the end of January until the beginning of March we were paired with others and spent a lot of time together, continuing to share our stories and receive mutual feedback. We were working on visioning our personal purpose for life. Things were moving along nicely, but then March 13th hit. Life as we all knew it changed. A good part of the curriculum for Ripples of Hope is meant to be done together, in person, and we could no longer do that. We were also all trying to figure out how to run our organizations (Synergies Work, Love Not Lost, JOYVIALl, College Aim, NewCrew, Sparke Women, and Central Outreach and Advocacy Center) in the midst of a pandemic. 

We received an email that our time together would be put on hold for a while because of COVID. We were going to meet via Zoom to further discuss how to move forward together. I remember joining that meeting with mixed feelings. I felt relieved that we would not have to focus on the readings and the extra work required. I didn’t feel like I had anything else to give, as all my energy was going toward figuring out how Central OAC could possibly operate during COVID. I was stressed! At the same time, though, my heart hurt with the thought of not being able to meet with this group of people who had come to mean a lot to me in a very short amount of time. Being a leader can often be lonely and this group became a support for me. So, we met; we talked; we were open and honest. It was agreed that we would continue meeting once per month via Zoom, but with a different focus. We would have guest speakers each month to talk with us about relevant topics. We would be able to check in each month and offer support to one another. As I write this blog, I’m planning to join a Ripples meeting later today.

The past few months have been hard and I know I am not alone in that statement. All of us, no matter what we do, have had to shift the way in which we live and work and play. I have felt the struggle of leading an organization that serves those experiencing homelessness, knowing how important our services are to our guests, and balancing our work with also keeping everyone as safe and healthy as possible. Continuing to be a part of Ripples of Hope has been invaluable to me and to Central OAC. It’s helped keep me balanced and it’s given me people to talk through issues with as they arise. I know that no matter what happens, this is a group of people that will continue to be a part of my life. I am so thankful for that overnight retreat back in January. It was the beginning of a very good thing!

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The OAC Community

by Brenna Lakeson

I could speak relentlessly on how grateful I am for the team at the OAC. I constantly tell people we’re “small but mighty.” With only four full-time staff, it’s sometimes overwhelming to do everything we need to do to run the OAC, but we get it done. Whenever there’s an unexpected challenge to face, I’m always proud of the ways we band together to solve it head on. Especially in the past six months, our staff and board have consistently risen to the challenge of caring for our guests and for each other.

There are plenty of days when our work is difficult. We see a lot of people who carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, and it can be hard to witness. We are also sometimes the recipients of our guests’ frustration and anger, which is understandable because of everything they experience but also challenging to endure. I wouldn’t be able to do this work without such a supportive team. I know that at the end of a hard day, our team will be there to vent with me and listen. I also know they’ll be there to remind me why we do what we do by telling stories of the guests who have touched them. Our team is a daily blessing.

Each morning, we share joys and concerns together with our volunteers and interns. Usually, we pray in a circle together about these things, but lately we’ve been sharing together over email. This has become a sacred time for many of us. I’ve faced a lot of personal challenges over the past couple years, as have many others in our community. Our daily practice of holding space for each other has supported us through deaths, health struggles, and family issues. It also gives us hope by celebrating children and grandchildren, new homes, and small daily joys. Being able to share with our team is good for my soul.

The OAC community isn’t the same these days, and while I miss seeing all of our volunteers and supporters in person, I know that there’s still a team behind me, supporting our work everyday, and I’m grateful.

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The Hardships of Trauma

by Chattrelle Gillyard

Often we see homelessness as a choice. There is stigma surrounding homelessness that causes many of us to believe that people experiencing it are lazy. They’ve chosen to be homeless or unemployed or that they’re the reason why they are currently experiencing homelessness. But most people in this situation did not choose it. What’s more, many people experiencing homelessness have endured some sort of trauma in their life. According to SAMSHA, homelessness in itself is considered a traumatic event.

Could you imagine losing your home and your job due to a natural disaster such as a hurricane? Can you imagine aging out of the foster care system with no stable living place to go? Can you imagine growing up poor and never really having a place to call home? Or what about having to run away from home due to abuse or neglect at a young age? Though many are fortunate enough to overcome these particular traumas, others aren’t that fortunate. Mental health conditions, substance use issues, and even paranoia and lack of trust can develop from unresolved trauma. These conditions are also all barriers to employment, affordable housing, and proper health care. Many people experiencing homelessness battle with unresolved trauma every day and are constantly reminded of their situation and looked down upon. It’s easy to see what’s on the outside, and it’s easy to judge and make assumptions. It’s even easier to label people who are different from us. It’s harder to look past someone’s appearance or current station in life to sympathize with where they’ve been or what they’ve been through.

Though many of us have experienced the same or similar traumas as our guests, we still choose to believe the stigma surrounding people experiencing homelessness. We still speed walk past them, frown at a particular smell they carry, ignore them when we see them, and even talk down to them. We put ourselves on a pedestal to make ourselves feel better, all while ignoring the reality that we could be one traumatic event from experiencing homelessness too. I challenge you to follow the tenets and values of Central OAC when it comes to interacting with someone who is experiencing homelessness. Meet them where they are with patience and humility. Treat them with respect, and dignity. Trauma is all around us and affects everyone differently. Don’t be in a rush to judge more than you are to understand.

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Peace and Justice

by Ahren Cassinari-Foster

The other day, I had a very interesting interaction with a guest.  She came to the front desk to ask for services, but it was far past the time of the morning when a case manager would be able to meet with her.  When I told her that we could not offer what she was asking for, she asked for clothing and food, both of which are not items we provide regularly, and especially not under the current health risks. So, unfortunately, I was again unable to give her anything she asked for.  She continued to ask some questions about our services, peppered with frustrated comments about not being able to get help. She was talking so quickly that I couldn’t understand her, so I asked her to repeat herself. 

 

She paused and said this: “I want peace and justice.”

 

Her request really took me aback. I was totally caught off-guard because I was having so much trouble understanding the other questions she was asking me. All I could muster at the moment was, “I’m sorry but I cannot offer you that either.”

 

As the morning slowed I began to reflect more on her request. Through everything that she said, through the rambling and mumbling and our inability to give her what she needed, she asked for something many of us, especially our guests, are hurting for right now: peace and justice.

 

Over the past few weeks, we’ve heard protesters demanding for justice for Black people so that we can work toward peace. “No justice, no peace.” Over the past months, our world has been full of chaos with ever rising health risks and the fear of becoming ill. Every day our guests feel the weight of an unjust system pressing on them. 

 

So, it’s no wonder that this particular guest, after not being able to get her physical needs met, asked for the only other thing she could think of that would help her heal: peace and justice.